As part of the saying goes “Something old….,” is a portion of what is representative of good luck for your upcoming nuptials. Whether traditional or modern in nature, many brides follow the superstition if for nothing more than fun.
Your bouquet is a great place to start. Everyone’s grandma
had handkerchiefs (usually handmade) that can be wrapped around your flowers
rather than the typical ribbon tie. Perhaps you have your parents’ or
grandparents’ wedding rings. Even if only borrowing them for the day, you can
secure them in the ribbon. Then you can feel them as you hold your bouquet and they
symbolize the lengthy marriage you long to have.
Every bride looks forward to opulent jewels accenting their
dress on the special day. However, there are many families in which brides have
worn the same jewelry for generations. If that is the case in yours, it would
be very meaningful for you keep up the tradition for them (and likely in
retrospect, for you).
Most girls gather things that are meaningful in some way as
a child. If you’d rather not be so traditional, you can incorporate something
from your collection and, depending upon what it is, find a way to integrate it
into your ceremony or reception.
A great idea is to include your husband. Maybe there is a
pin he could wear on his lapel in place of a boutonniere from someone
meaningful to you both.
While your wedding day is all about you and your fiancé,
it’s hard to discount how meaningful it is for your family to be included. They
are your roots, the epitome of relationships you strive to have and the
beginning of two families joining together.
Choosing a wedding dress is often beyond overwhelming. Girls
grow up with a dream gown in mind only to find out it is not right for their
body type, not at all what they expected and don’t think about cost. There are
many things to consider before you even begin shopping and below are just a
While you want to get the opinion of everyone closest to you, it can make you
preferences get lost in the mix. You can feel perfect in a gown that your mom
doesn’t love, your best friend says doesn’t suit you and you end up feeling
defeated and settling for something you didn’t really want.
dresses are sized differently than clothes so you shouldn’t get caught up in a
number. It’s much better to buy bigger as anything can be taken in than to buy
smaller and put added stress on yourself to lose weight when you already have
enough to focus on.
Expensive dresses with designer names are no better than any other. No one will
know how much you paid and you need to stay within your budget. Additionally,
if you try on an overpriced gown, chances are you might fall in love with it
and then nothing will compare.
soon to be husband likely has an idea of what he wants to see you in but often
it is so far different than what you imagine. It is guaranteed that he will
think you look gorgeous in whatever you choose. Your dress is just that (YOURS)
and you will look more beautiful when you feel comfortable in your choice.
Your wedding dress is likely the most expensive gown you
will ever wear and will keep forever. Go with what your heart tells you is right
regardless of others opinions, or brand names because it is all about you and
it is one of the most important aspects of your big day.
Enjoy the moment before spilling the beans. There
will be plenty of time for everyone to congratulate you, wish you well etc. but
the biggest moment in your life is between you and your fiancé. Spend some time
just cherishing the proposal before announcing it to everyone.
Don’t get lost in your wedding day. So much
time, energy and planning has gone into it that it’s easy to get caught up with
you guests. You don’t want to look back and realize that you didn’t have any
special moments with your new husband.
Be yourself. You would be so upset if upon
reflection, you realized you didn’t have what you wanted because you wanted to
please your guests. It’s YOUR day and
should be exactly how you want it to be. Those who love you will be over the
moon with anything you choose.
Remember that it’s not all about you. Your
fiancé is just as important and what he wants should be considered. Even if it
doesn’t fit into your vision and some grooms don’t have any interest, if he
wants something included, you should make a point to do so.
Communication is very important especially before
you get married. It is the foundation of every relationship and you need to be
open with one another about everything to ensure your marriage will last. If
you don’t start off on a solid foundation, your chances are greatly reduced.
Marriage is so important and it is easy to
get caught up in the moment. However, there are things that need to be
established and considered prior to walking down the aisle (and during your
ceremony) in order to increase the chances of lifelong happiness.
You will get advice from all angles
and some will be fitting and some won’t work for you but there are fundamentals
that set you up for a strong, long lasting marriage.
Going Green: Greenery is taking the place of flowers which are becoming used more as accent pieces. There are many to choose from and most are easy on your budget. Small trees seamlessly work in place of bouquets at the altar. Foliage, including creatively decorated potted plants beautifully decorate pews. Additionally, grasses of all sorts, especially pampas and wheat, add depth and an nontraditional beauty.
Picture Perfect: Although a bit pricey, couples are opting for hand-illustrated invitations. Whether a rendering of your venue or something representative of your relationship, it is exciting to your guests and can be more than worth the investment. You can use the drawing for invitations, save-the-dates, napkins and many other ways that creatively tie everything together flawlessly.
Eat Up: Rather than having buffets or a few plated options, food stations are the latest trend. You can choose all sorts of food (a taco bar, mini-burger stand, sushi station just to name a few). It is easy on the budget, allows guests to graze on smaller bites throughout the reception and ensures that everyone will find something they want.
Touch of Class: Velvet is something new and different. While much is headed toward neutral and minimalist, it throws a touch of elegance into the mix. You can get it in all colors and add an unexpected surprise.
While you always must stay true to yourself, one thing about weddings is that there are always new and interesting things that come each year. Therefore, the ideas are limitless, and you will find things you may have never considered.
Who doesn’t love getting gifts especially when you choose them yourself? Wedding registries might be the only time you get to do so but some things that should be considered when making them are for your guests.
Complete your registry at least six months before your wedding so everyone has time to choose what to get you for not only your big day but engagement parties, showers etc. Also, being such a special gift, invitees don’t want to rush at the last-minute or get you something other than what they’d like because of a time crunch.
Register for enough gifts to give your guests options but don’t go overboard and choose things on a whim you’d never use. The number of items needs to be at least equivalent to your guest count. An easy way to achieve that is by breaking down sets (such as cookware) into individual pieces.
Items of all price ranges should be included even if your guests tend to be generous. You don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable if gifts are out of their budget. Many smaller ticket items can be creatively combined in fun ways to look more lavish.
Personal items should remain just that and not be included. As much as you may want a new wardrobe for your honeymoon, your registry is not an appropriate place to ask for it. Request things you and your fiancé can share now and in the future. However, there’s no harm in asking for a nice camera to capture the adventures you will share or items to entertain as your lifestyle will be changing.
Thank each person within two weeks of receiving a gift. Although you will be very busy with planning (and life in general), doing so will keep you from getting overwhelmed down the line and ensure that no one falls through the cracks.
Your registry isn’t a secret but never include it on your invitation. Instead, it should be shared by your family, bridal party or wedding website (if you have one). You will appreciate the thought and consideration put into each item you choose as they will last for years to come and remind you of this special time in your life.
The time comes when friends and family start asking when you’re getting married and you get antsy for your fiancé to propose. Maybe you find yourself dropping subtle hints or even questioning whether the day will arrive at all. While we all like fun games, the waiting game isn’t one anyone enjoys. Instead, as the saying goes, “Take destiny into your own hands.”
Women are more empowered and independent than ever and there’s nothing wrong with you popping the question. Because it doesn’t happen every day, doesn’t make it unacceptable. In fact, there are advantages to you doing so.
If you are certain about your partner’s feelings and commitment, proposing will calm your nerves and allow you to start planning the next phase of your relationship. Also, the seeds of doubt inadvertently planted by others’ innocent questions will end.
The best part of a proposal is the thought and planning behind it and, of course the complete surprise. How great would it be to give the same wonderful experience to the person you love the most? While it would be taking that away from you, his response will overshadow anything you may worry about missing out on.
When you take charge, a bonus is that you will most likely have some input (if not complete control) over your engagement ring! Unfortunately, some fiancés choose rings their brides-to-be don’t like which leads to awkward situations. That’s yet something else you won’t have to worry about.
Women often start marriage conversations with their partners so proposing isn’t completely out in left field. There are no rules when it comes to relationships and what a fun twist to add to your love story.
Flowers bring vibrancy and beauty to your wedding and often take up a sizable portion of your budget. Being immersed in the colors and smells typically only experienced by florists makes it is easy to get carried away. Below are a few things to consider regarding such an important decision:
An overabundance can become obtrusive and distracting. If you are holding too many flowers, the dress you spent countless hours selecting will be hidden behind your bouquet. Your guests want to see one another during the reception while seated at their tables too. Large arrangements (beautiful as they may be) can easily become disruptive if they interfere with conversations.
Most florists won’t tell you that several blossoms have less expensive ones that are so similar, they could be substituted for the pricier ones without anyone noticing. Doing a little research can quickly keep you from paying more than necessary. Also, countless types of leaves can be transformed to add bulk and reduce costs while accentuating the blooms.
If you are looking to match something, take a swatch or sample of some sort. Not only do people often view colors differently but a lot of flowers come in various shades of assorted hues. Therefore, if you simply say pink, you may end up with magenta when you wanted a light blush.
Take time to “smell the roses” so to speak as certain blossoms have very strong aromas. While that may enhance the ambiance, especially in a smaller venue, it can become overpowering and even cause issues for sensitive guests or those with allergies.
A little bit of learning, thought and discretion will make a significant difference in your budget, the comfort of your guests and ensure you get exactly what you have are looking for.