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I Tip My Hat to You

Wedding budgets are always difficult. It may feel like you spend more every time you even look at something but part of you says it’s your one day to indulge. There will always be unexpected costs, some of which can be minimized or completely avoided. Others, such as gratuities for your vendors should at least be considered.

Officiant: Time and energy is spent making your rehearsal and ceremony perfectly fitted to you. This is done on top of regular job duties and already busy schedules out of joy from uniting couples in marriage. A cash gift should be given by an attendant at the rehearsal. If he/she is connected to your location (and your budget permits), a donation to the venue space is an added way to show your gratitude.

Wedding Planner: Because what is provided is done as a profession, tips are optional and don’t have to be monetary. In fact, they are usually not expected. If you feel inclined, send your gift after your honeymoon (10 – 20% is appropriate). A free option is to send some photos for your planner to enhance his or her portfolio.

Hair and Makeup: Stylists should be treated as you would in a salon if not better. Often, rates are higher for wedding days and wedding parties, but the gratuity should not be affected by that. The styles are more complicated, everything must be perfect and often, hairdressers and make up artists travel to your location. Show your thanks at the end of the service and allow photographs, if requested, for portfolios or look-books.

Reception and Entertainment: Bands or DJs and catering, transportation companies etc. typically add a surcharge to their base rates so additional tips are optional. If you give extra, follow the same guidelines you would on a regular day. However, put an attendant in charge of handling payment(s), all of which should occur at the end of your big day.

Whether gratuities are expected, optional (but typical) or out of the norm, they are always welcome. Everyone likes to know they have done a good job. However, especially at weddings, vendors understand the huge costs you have already incurred. Handwritten, individualized thank you notes are a very cost-effective and special way to show your gratitude if your budget doesn’t allow for monetary tokens of appreciation.

It’s a Family Affair


When you get engaged, you are filled with excitement and elation. However, most brides don’t realize the extent of planning that is involved with making their dream come true. While nothing is set in stone, traditionally speaking, there are some guidelines in reference to who pays for what.

For the most part, the costs associated with a wedding and reception fall upon the bride and her family, although the groom is in charge of financing the marriage license, rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon. Be mindful of how much you can or will contribute and what the financial impact upon your family will be when making decisions. A beautiful wedding can be achieved at any cost and what is important and memorable at the end of the day is the time spent together and the union of you and your fiance. It is not the decorations or how much everything cost.

The bride and her family are typically responsible for the venue and that is a great reason to have a small church and invite only those closest to you. It also allows you to spend more quality time with everyone in attendance.

The bride is also responsible for the cost of her gown but the maid of honor and bridesmaids are responsible for the cost of their dresses. Similarly, the best man and groomsmen are expected to foot the bill for their tuxedos or suits. However, the gentlemen are lucky because most of the time, their outfits can be rented for a relatively small fee. Those are good things to keep that in mind when choosing what you want them to wear.

According to tradition, it’s no surprise that the groom is responsible for the cost of both the bride’s engagement and wedding rings and the bride purchases the ring for the groom. If you and your future husband choose to exchange gifts, each is responsible for the cost of the other’s present as well.

Unless it is a gift from either your parents or your future in-laws, the groom additionally takes care of the costs associated with the honeymoon to celebrate your nuptials and new life together.