Pretty Please…

Every couple creates a registry for their wedding of things they either need or want. Registries are convenient because they allow both you and your guests to keep track of what has been purchased and prevent two people from buying the same thing. However, there is etiquette that should be taken into consideration and some guidelines to keep in mind. Here are a few of them.

It is not appropriate to include information about your registry with your invitation. Typically, brides rely upon their family and friends to share with the guests the stores that have been chosen even though some stores offer the service of sending the information to the invitees. However, it is acceptable for the host of your shower to provide the information to the guests.

If you have everything you can possibly need as far as kitchenware, etc. goes, do some research. You would be surprised by the number of stores that have registries and it never hurts to ask. You should limit your number of choices, however, to two or three because it can easily become difficult for you to keep track of as well as overwhelming for your gift givers.

Keep in mind where the gifts will be coming from. If you have guests attending your wedding from out of town, it is a good idea to register at stores that can be found nationally or that are available online. If you only choose small boutiques in town, it can be very inconvenient and quite a hassle for your friends and family because it is likely they will have to scramble at the last minute to find the perfect present for you.

Choose things in different price ranges because no matter how honored someone may feel to be included in your big day or how much they love you, they may not have the finances to spend a great deal on a gift for you. Gifts, after all, come in all shapes, sizes and prices, so that is something to keep in mind.

Don’t be surprised or offended if someone gives you a gift that is not on any of your registries. Some people like the element of surprise and take the time and make the effort to select something for you that is personal and unique. Even if the item is something that you are not thrilled about or already have, keep in mind the planning and forethought that went in to the choice.

An alternative in the event that you have everything you need is that many banks have the option of setting up special accounts to designate money for a down payment on a home. That way, you are working towards your goal and your guests know exactly what they are contributing to.

Don’t forget the thank you notes. They should be sent within 2 – 3 weeks (maximum) after you receive the gift, especially if it is prior to the wedding. That way, your guest is assured that you received their present and it keeps you from having an overwhelming amount of notes to write and mail after you return from your honeymoon.