There is nothing wrong with reciting the traditional wedding vows, but more and more brides and grooms choose to write their own as another way to personalize the ceremony and let their guests get a glimpse into their relationship. However, when you actually sit down to tackle the task, it can easily become somewhat overwhelming. Here are some hints to make the process easier and less stressful.
An easy way to begin is by asking yourself questions about your relationship. Remember that, in the beginning, it’s better to have more information than you need than it is to not have enough. For example:
How did you know you wanted to marry your fiance?
What is his best quality?
What is your favorite memory of the two of you together?
What made you fall in love with him?
What do you look forward to the most about spending your life together?
Why do you miss him when he is not with you?
The list goes on and on but those are just some basic questions to get started with.
A quote or a line from a poem or song that means something special to the two of you is a great way to either begin or end your vows.
Remember that these are words that your fiance will remember forever and keep in mind what you hope to hear from your future husband. These are some of the most important words that you will ever say, so it is important that they are meaningful and timeless.
Make sure that you and your fiance are on the same page in reference to the tone of the vows. Are they going to be funny and lighthearted or sentimental and serious? You don’t want to write them in one tone and have him write them in another.
Be sure to get approval from your Officiant. There may be rules and regulations that need to be followed and it is important to make sure that what you have written meets the guidelines of the facility and the Officiant.
Practice, Practice, Practice. Once you have written what you want to say, take some time to rehearse the vows so you feel comfortable on your big day. Most brides feel a little bit nervous and you don’t want to mess up what you have spent so much time and energy creating.