Will you….be my bridesmaid??

A lot of brides feel conflicted about who to include in their wedding party and end up asking people they would rather not and forget that it is meant to be a bonding experience between the friends that support and mean the most to them. When trying to decide who to have next to you during your ceremony, take time to make the decision. Here are some helpful hints…

Choose the people who mean the most to you and that you know you can rely on. Simply being a family member does not mean someone has to be included in your wedding party.

You don’t necessarily need to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Maybe your fiance has 5 guys that he is really close to and wants to have stand with him at the altar but you only have 3 people who you want to share your experience with. That’s fine. You don’t need to include someone who you aren’t crazy about just to keep the numbers balanced.

There is no need to ask someone to participate in your wedding because they included you in theirs. Choosing your wedding party is not something to be done out of a sense of obligation or to return a favor. It is a decision that should be done on an individual basis.

Have a back-up plan and don’t be offended if someone declines your invitation. Maybe financial or time constraints will keep someone from participating in your big day but you shouldn’t let that change your friendship. Just have one or two people in mind in case someone does say “No.”